How to Make Time for Your Partner When You Are Both Busy

Written By Graham Gallivan

After a long day at work, you come home and collapse on the couch. You look next to you, and your partner is right there beside you. Instead of connecting, however, you’re both scrolling on your phones to decompress from the day.

Another day has passed, and you’ve barely connected with your partner on a deeper level than daily logistics. You know that the groceries have been picked up and the bills have been paid, but you haven’t had any discussion about goals and aspirations.

When you’re both juggling demanding careers and busy schedules, your relationship can quickly shift into one of your to-do list items on autopilot. Unfortunately, that will stunt long-term growth. Thriving relationships require intention and attention, no matter how overwhelming life gets.

Redefine Quality Time

Quality time doesn’t have a right or wrong approach. Elaborate date nights or weekend getaways are nice, but sometimes the small moments matter more. A genuine conversation over your morning coffee or a phone-free dinner that you’ve prepared together can make a significant impact.

The key to quality time is being present. When you’re spending time with your partner, be with them. Put down your phone, turn off any distractions, and give them your full, undivided attention. Mini interactions spread out throughout the week, even for just 15 minutes, can help you stay emotionally connected.

Schedule Connection Time

Scheduling quality time with your partner may not sound like the most romantic approach, but it does allow you to block off non-negotiable time. Compare your calendars to find a time that works for both of you.

Initiate a weekly date night. Start a Sunday morning ritual. Plan daily break time for short check-ins with each other. When you place time in your schedule, you’re more likely to treat it as a priority and show up for it.

Create Shared Rituals

Establishing routine rituals with a partner creates a sense of predictability and something you can count on. When you’re dealing with busy schedules, you have to capitalize on the moments you have in front of you. Consider these options:

• Saturday morning breakfasts, exploring a new spot, or making it together

• Evening walks around the neighborhood

• Standing phone calls during your commute home

• Shared cups of tea before bed

• Sunday game night in a device-free zone

Over time, these rituals will become anchors in your relationship. No matter how overwhelming everything else gets, you know you have this safety net with your person.

Combine Activities

When you’re limited on time and availability, look for opportunities to combine both of your worlds. Sharing parts of your respective lives offers the chance to deepen your connection without adding more to your schedule. It can also help you understand aspects of each other’s lives you may not be aware of, such as the pressures you face and what truly matters.

Communicate About Your Needs

Honest communication is an essential part of any healthy relationship. Start having conversations with each other about what you need from the other person, what makes you feel valuable.

You are two independent individuals, so it’s likely you each need different things. Maybe one of you desires daily conversation while the other values weekly one-on-one time. Understanding your differences can also help create a rhythm that works for you both.

Bringing in Outside Support

If you and your partner are struggling to find time for each other despite your best efforts, therapy can be helpful. Couples counseling can offer a new perspective on the pressures of busy professionals and give you the tools to strengthen your connection.

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